by Aly Walansky
Ladies, congratulations! You’ve made it to the first date with someone you think you may actually really like. Now, don’t mess it up!
We consulted Dr. Sherri Lewis, a national bestselling author of three books (Kensington Books), who heads a singles dating ministry but she’s not preachy, I swear! Check her out at: www.sherrilewis.com. She helped us to come up with some topics NOT to bring out while sharing that flourless torte.
The worst thing a woman can bring up on a first date is marriage. A guy wants to get to know you first – see if he’s interested. The mere mention of marriage is enough to send him running in the opposite direction and is a guaranteed way to make you look desperate.
2. Past relationships
No one wants to hear your “how he done me wrong” story on a first date, especially if you’re still bitter and hurt about it. He also doesn’t want to hear about the wonderful guy in your past you’re still hung up on and are certain to compare him to.
Whatever is stressing you out, keep it to yourself. You don’t want to download your issues on a new guy on the critical first date. Let him think you’re fun and carefree – and most importantly drama free. Guys hate conflict and drama.
4. His finances
While it’s important to ask about his career and be genuinely interested in what he does, don’t ask too many questions about money, his car, his house, etc. You’ll come across as a gold digger. Don’t talk about your finances either – you don’t want him to think you’ll be expecting him to pay your bills.
5. Other people
If another woman walks by in a dress that’s too tight or too short or too something, don’t dog her out. You don’t want to come across as judgmental and critical or as a gossipy woman that talks about people.