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Is Your Sex Life Eco-Friendly?

Tuesday, June 7th, 2011

By Aly Walansky

Earth Day may have been in April, but us true global denizens know Earth Day is (and should be) EVERY DAY.

Trying to add a little environmental love to your bedroom love? Here’s some tips!
1.     Shower together for some steamy fun that will conserve water as well.

2.     Toss used condoms in the trash, not the toilet. Flushing condoms can clog pipes, treatment plants and rivers. Also, stick with latex since polyurethane condoms are essentially plastic (not biodegradable).

3.     Engage in some sexy foreplay by giving your partner a backrub with organic massage oil. Experiment with different fragrances. Some aromatic oils, such as jasmine and sandalwood, are considered natural aphrodisiacs, while others such as lavender may help you to de-stress.

4.     Keep the lights off! Energy-efficient lovemaking in the dark enhances your senses and also helps qualm body insecurities. (Did we mention you might save a little on your electric bill as well?) Candles can also create sexy silhouettes, so consider making love by candlelight for an ultra-sensuous evening.  Opt for natural beeswax candles to limit indoor air pollution.

5.    Instead of ordering a pizza and driving to a movie, enjoy the outdoors for a sexy date. Try a walk in the park or along the beach, or how about some star gazing? Plus, the fresh air is invigorating.

6.     Did you know you can also naturally support your man’s performance? Tenaga is an herbal supplement contains PhysTA, a patented form of Tongkat Ali developed in collaboration with MIT that may not only support overall energy, but may give you a boost in the bedroom as well. Malaysian men have been using this natural aphrodisiac to boost their sexual desire for centuries.

7.     Some foods are thought to have sexually stimulating properties, such as black pepper, asparagus, ginseng, red wine, oysters, dark chocolate and avocado.

8.     Avoid lubes that are made with petroleum products or artificial fragrance, flavor or color, and opt for water-based instead. Coconut and olive oils are also great alternatives, just be careful not to use them with latex.





From Neon Lights to Aisle 9: Adult Pleasure Products go Mainstream

Tuesday, April 26th, 2011

By Aly Walansky

Once limited to adult novelty stores, “pleasure products” are now available for retail where you’d least expect… your mainstream drugstore.

Reporting on this trend, The New York Times notes that these previously hush-hush purchases are losing their stigma. Leading condom companies are getting in on the action, increasing revenues by expanding the sexual health aisle to add pleasure products to the mix. And even further, these mainstream retails are jumping on board as well.

“There is an overall demystification of the sex industry going on in the country. What used to be relegated to niche stores is now being received as acceptable for mainstream retailers,” said Carol Carrozza, Vice President of Marketing for the Lifestyles brand. “The lines that we have added to the Lifestyles brand, which include the a:Muse Personal Pleasure Massager, are indicative of this, and we anticipate sales figures to reflect this shift in thought.”

Stat from the New York Times article: “Dr. Berman, a prominent sex and relationship expert, has a line of sex toys which she said grossed $5 million in 2010, up from $100,000 in 2005. After one appearance on “Oprah” that focused on adult women who had problems climaxing, one of her top-selling products was back-ordered forever.

As conversations about sex have become less taboo and these pleasure products have received increased exposure in popular culture, mainstream retailers are finally playing along and brands are happy to oblige, offering up products such as vibrators for placement in the condom aisle of your corner store.

What do you think? Would you ever buy your “pleasure products” in the same place you buy your household cleaners? It certainly seems to make sense to us!

Teens and Sex

Tuesday, April 5th, 2011

by: Yolanda Shoshana

In the past few months, I have had mothers approach me about talking to their daughters about sex.  Since I have wanted to empower young girls with sex information, it has been interesting to chat with teens about what is going on with them.

Here are some things that you should know if you are a parent with a teen. There was poll in 1996 and 82% of mothers believed that their daughters had not been sexually active. In reality out of that percentage, 12% of the daughters had been sexuality active. When it came to the boys, 70% of the mother’s believed that their sons had not been sexually active, while 36% of their sons had been sexually active. Since that study was more than a few years ago, the percentage has probably gone up. Long story short, you never just know.

Surely you have heard about the bracelets that teens wear in high school.  The jelly bracelets, or sex bracelets are color-coded according to certain sexual acts. The sex bracelets let people know what the one wearing the bracelet  prefers.

This is small list of the bracelet break down:

Black – will have regular “missionary” sex
Blue –  oral sex performed on a guy
Green – oral sex can be performed on a girl
Glittery Blue – willing to perform anal sex
Glittery Green – is willing to “69″
Glittery Pink – willing to “flash” a body part
Glittery Purple – willing to French kiss
Glittery Yellow – kissing and hugging is acceptable
Yellow – willing to hug
Pink –  willing to give a hickey
Orange – wearer is willing to kiss
Purple – is willing to kiss a partner, a boy or a girl
Red –  is willing to perform a lap dance

Some schools have finally started banning the bracelets, so be on the look out for something new that the teens come up with. If you see you teen wearing a bracelet, do not go crazy.  Start to ask questions.  While it would be fabulous if your teen would wait till a certain age to begin to have sex, the reality is that it may already be happening. Your teen may be to shy to come to you about sex no matter how cool of a parent you are.

Make sure that your teen is armed with the correct information. Leave them pamphlets, condoms, information, etc, something in their room or where you know they will find it.  This way they know you are there to talk, but it does not have to become like a scene from a bad sex education movie.  The right information is always better than none at all or getting it all wrong.


Yolanda Shoshana “Shoshi” is a lifestyle provocateur:  sex goddess, courtesan coach™, lifestyle guru, love maker, wedding officiant, and new thought speaker. She has a new sexy lifestyle web show, Courtesan Candy, on Mingle Media TV. Follow her on Twitter @Shoshi

The One Night Stand Plan

Sunday, February 6th, 2011

By Yolanda Shoshana

The one night stand is still alive and well. As a matter of fact some women enjoy them just as much as men. There can be something extremely sexy about meeting a hottie and knowing that you are going to rock with world. If you are going to get down and dirty with someone you just met it is best not to loose all your wits. There are some things that should be kept in mind.

Always have on good lingerie- There are days when you just want to wear your granny panties. Who will know if you have a big whole in your undies because you don’t plan on taking them off, right? Always have fabulous lingerie so that you are ready to go at anytime. You just never know.  Think of it this way, what if you have an emergency and you have to take your clothes off.  Would you really want a Dr. Mc Dreamy look alike to see you in your grandma bloomies?

Have condoms- As the saying goes “no glove, no love”. Unless the two of you are carrying around current HIV test results, engaging in unprotected sex is not a good way to go. A person can look completely healthy and have all kinds of diseases going on in their body. One night of fun is not worth putting yourself at risk. Make sure you always carry condoms with you because it is not just a man’s responsibility. As a matter of fact men try to get out of wearing condoms all the time, because “they can’t feel anything”. Let them know they definitely won’t be feeling you without wearing one.

Go offsite- If at all possible do not go back to his place or your place, but a hotel. While this may sound sleazy or may you feel like an escort there are more than a few good reasons to have your encounter offsite. Long story short, the guy or girl you are going to have this passionate night with could be the killer. If you just met you may not know that the person is crazy so you do not want them to know where you live. No matter where you go make sure you tell one of your best girlfriends what is going on, send her a text or email. If the person doesn’t want you to tell anyone where you are going, that could be a sign they have a body bag waiting for you. Run don’t walk away from the situation, nobody is that fine.

Don’t get pink- Getting pink means feeling emotional and falling in love. Remember it is what it is, sex and nothing more. Don’t get pissed off if there is little romance, because it is not about that. Having this mindset is your pre game warm up to being focused on what the situation is. This is about protection of your heart and mind. Sometimes women let a few emotions get involved in the whole one night stand process. Go in planning for one hot night of really good sex, nothing more and nothing less. The person just may not call you tomorrow; you have to be okay with this.

Wait, just a minute- You were planning on taking someone back to your lair to get buck wild, but as you continue to talk you see potential for a little more, you can always pull back the reigns. You are in control of the situation, because it is the women who leads where a relationship goes. A lady always has a right to change her mind. If the person gets pissed and decides to look elsewhere maybe it is a blessing in disguise. You were already getting pink, better to know at the beginning. There is always another cutie in the bar so put your chest up and bootie out, time to get back in there.

Yolanda Shoshana “Shoshi” is a multi-platform media personality: courtesan coach™, lifestyle guru, love maker, wedding officiant, and new thought speaker. Follow her on Twitter @Shoshi

Get It On With Greener Birth Control

Thursday, November 11th, 2010

By Jennifer Latkiewicz

You may reuse and recycle but is your birth control just as eco-friendly? Reduce your contraceptive carbon footprint with these green prophylactics that show you care for both your partner and the planet.

Getting it on is going greener. As the eco movement makes its way between our bedsheets, many of us have begun to examine the environmental impact of our birth control. The fear of landfills overflowing with used condoms and waterways polluted with synthetic hormones — it’s an ecological quandary that sparked a search for the greenest forms of contraception.

Of course, consult your physician first, but here are a few birth control alternatives for the sexually active and environmentally inclined that may be worth exploring:

1. Condoms

Imagine the 437 million condoms that were sold in 2008 clogging up landfills all across the country. Not a pretty picture. Though most latex condoms should eventually biodegrade in landfills (not in waterways), chemical additives such as stabilizers, preservatives, and hardening agents that are found in some brands may inhibit the process. Natural condoms such as those made from lambskin are a greener option and equally as effective at preventing pregnancy, however, they do not protect against STDs.

And though they may not necessarily be more green, there are a few specialty brands of condoms are 100% vegan or Fair Trade. Glyde condoms are made with thistle extract instead of the animal-derived casein traditionally used in latex processing, and Sir Richard’s Condom Company uses only latex rubber that is harvested under Fair Trade conditions.

But whatever you choose, never flush a condom — not only can it wreck havoc on your plumbing, but it increases the chances of us finding it in our waterways. Seriously gross. (Instead, wrap it in tissue paper and throw in the garbage. )

2. The Pill

Hands down the least green option, the pill is also the most popular, with over 100 million women worldwide relying on it as their main birth control method.  But the iconic contraceptive has recently come under scrutiny for its crimes against nature. Aside from the surplus of blister packs and other packaging waste, the pill has been blamed for contaminating wildlife and suburban water supplies after harmful synthetic hormones were inadvertently released into sewers through the urine of those taking birth control. (The jury’s still out.)

If you’re concerned about estrogen runoff, try progestin-only products. While estrogen-free, the effects of progestin on our wildlife have yet to be studied at length, but if administered as a one-time shot or three year implant, you’ll at least be cutting down on packaging waste.

3. Fertility Awareness Method (FAM)

The Fertility Awareness Method uses a variety of factors to track ovulation, and limits sex to naturally infertile periods when pregnancy is most unlikely. Latex and chemical-free, FAM is totally green and completely natural. You’ll have to chart your cycle carefully but according to Planned Parenthood, FAMs are just as effective as condoms, sponges and cervical caps in preventing pregnancy.

4. The Copper IUD

Less than 2 percent of women in the United States who use contraception rely on copper Intrauterine Devices (IUDs), but this small, T-shaped device is one of the greenest methods available. Inserted into the uterus by a physician, the hormone-free IUD are 99 percent effective and prevent pregnancy by thinning the uterine lining, lasting for up to 12 years.


Any form of birth control is inherently greener than using nothing at all. Even the most environmentally unsound method will have less of an ecological impact than bringing another (unintended) pair of carbon footprints into the world. According to a Oregon State University study, going childless is actually 20 times more effective in helping the environment than recycling, driving an energy-efficient car, or using compact fluorescent bulbs.

Going child-free for the sake of the environment isn’t for everyone but considering that 41% of pregnancies globally are unintended and that Earth’s population is expected to exceed nine billion by 2050, a condom and oral contraceptive may be the cost effective tools that will help curb global warming.

For more information about the different forms of birth control, visit PlannedParenthood.org.

Jennifer Latkiewicz is a Love/Sex blogger for LovingYou.com. Follow her on Twitter at @jenniferlat.

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